Fairy tale, happily ever after
Was on bus msg-ing her, out of no link we talk about fairy tale and this word keep swirling around my head, so I decide to blog about it after 2 hours of thinking.
Along my way home, I have been thinking does fairy tale even exist before? So when I come out to a conclusion, it actually does. Basically, there is 3 type of fairly tale that exists in this world and this is how I analyze it into 3 parts.
1) Movie
2) 1890 to 1990 years ago
3) Currently society
People such as actor or actress can experience how fairy tale live their life while acting in movie, this remind me of Enchanted! A very nice touching fairy tale, I believe they enjoy acting even more like ghost movie, fighting movie or even comedy. They themselves know that it impossible to experience it in real life, so why not while acting in movie?
Fairy tale can never be apart with words like “Happily ever after” even blur blur hope for it. Put aside fairy tale, does even happily ever after are easy to obtain? Just look at how high is the rate of divorce? It simply shocks you. Let don’t get so far back in history, let just zoom back to the 1890 to 1990, where human depend on growing vegetables for a living. 8 bowls to 10 small bowls of rice, with 1 salted egg and a plate of stir fried vegetables for one whole family. Husband and wife stay as lovely as if they just get into relationship until their back hunch, their teeth drop, until their very last breath. Isn’t that fairy tale.
Depression rate is going up, divorce rate is going up, simply said that everything is growing up. Depression is now the top world health issue in current society. WOW! the world.
SO I ask myself, how to live up to a fairy tale life if I want to?
Everyone needs a fairy tale life, whether you believe it or not, everyone needs it. Of course, it doesn’t happen in appearance or visible by eyes. It in our heart, everyone including kids didn’t have enough care, concern, love whether by their parent, relative or friends. All they see and know is “you got to study hard, you got to be talented, you better be smart, you better score for your exam, and you better got FIRST in everything”
Research show that depression is so common at the age of 12 onwards. Heeelllooo there!! They are just kids!
There is actually formula to live a fairy tale life.
ASK FOR LESS + give more = happily ever after!
Ever ask for a more luxury life if you know this is what I should get.
Don’t expect more from a kids when they say “Daddy, mummy, I had already done my best”
Don’t commit your time all at career and let your kids say “Daddy, mummy, all I remember is seeing you in your shadow at night.”
Give more of your love to people around.
Give quality time to those around you.
Give time to allow yourself to slow down your foot step and take a closer look at the world. Never be stingy to GIVE words that are lovely.
That a fairy tale that everyone should deserve to have, Yes! I agree that there is no fairy tale in this REAL world, but everyone can have a fairy tale in your own way that bring happiness to everyone, especially the inner self of ours.
“I know there is no fairy tale, that why I promise to give my wife, kids and my parent a fairy tale world in future. As long as they are happy, I will feel as if I’m living in fairy tale world myself.”
I mean it.
=) that blur blur logo.
Life made simple
Today is the last episode of 阿旺新传 and I nearly cry during the last half hour of show. I really learn a lot of this drama series and wonder if I really can live up my life like him.
阿旺 is a very pure and innocent guy that make very part of his life to the simplest that none of us can be like him. Every since young, he only have one girl in his heart, who is the one that he always say 小媳妇. Relationship now and what it show in this drama can never be compare and does it still exist in society like now? I doubt so.
I feel that it everyone of us make things too complicated and coming out with all kind of theory and reasoning, thinking that “yes! This should be the way it works.”
But did 阿旺 have all this kind of theory that every one of us have in his life? His believe is “with my never give up spirit, I will success.”
A little encouragement is what he need, this spirit is always shown from the starting of this drama till the end. 小媳妇 is a very smart lady that can actually strive in this strong economy and society, she is a very smart lady that all the guy can ask for. But why she choose阿旺 as her life partner, her husband than anyone else?
After all, she knows that happiness is everything. What she need is not a rich and smart husband that can provide her every luxury, what she need is a guy who can love her with one faithful heart, a simple smile every single day….Does this role阿旺 still exist in this world?
I always feel that being rich is everything, aiming for $10,000 a month for salary. Today Mdm Tan said that work as a marketing manager for Health Science Company, which is her previous job earn her $17,000 a month!! This words from her made me gone kind of crazy, money actually wash my brain off!
I thought with money can actually provide my family a stable life with luxury, without worries, with good status in society. WOW! from everyone that envy me, envy my wife. But none of us will think that money is enough, we will only ask for more, more is always good.
Just read news that report recently, rice is nearly out of stock. Billions of people around the undeveloped countries are starving, reporter said if rice will to go out of stock, human chain are going to be in danger, people are going to start war of hunger. LOOKS at how this modern world transform, how successful business world are developing, how technology are improve day by day. WHY shortage of food is happening then?
Does my dream still worth any consideration if I know I going to starve because food is running out and not because I don’t have the money? Does $10,000 a month of salary worth considering when I know I didn’t have time to spend with my love one? Does relationship still worth carrying on when I come out with all kind of complicated theory of maintaining a relationship when simple is good are the only theory behind all.
I miss blur blur, this five days will be a torture to me.
Importance of EQ
Recently I just get to make a lot of new friends in Poly and some friends are really a joker or they are just making a lot of trouble, whether in the way they talk or behave. Of course, I don’t just realize this when I come to poly, I also see this senseless cases even in my secondary school or friends outside. These people can’t really be blame because it the way and how are being brought up by or even their social circle outside.
Not everyone realize the importance of EQ and some think IQ is more important. In fact, research report that in order to strive in this global society, high EQ is needed compare to people with high IQ. This will be the following information I will be sharing with everyone below.
1) What is Emotional Intelligence ( EQ ) ?
2) Who is emotionally intelligent -- and how does it matter?3) The four key emotional skills are?
1) There are many possible definitions of emotional intelligence, and many definitions can be found on the Internet. Many of these definitions stem from the popularizations of emotional intelligence found in the popular press and in popular books...
A clear and scientifically useful definition of emotional intelligence, however, is recognizeable because it takes the terms emotion and intelligence seriously. That is, the meaning of emotional intelligence has something specific to do with the intelligent intersection of the emotions and thoughts.
For example:
Emotional intelligence represents an ability to validly reason with emotions and to use emotions to enhance thought.
A more formal definition is...
We define EI as the capacity to reason about emotions, and of emotions to enhance thinking. It includes the abilities to accurately perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth
Here is another definition
Emotional intelligence refers to an ability to recognize the meanings of emotion and their relationships, and to reason and problem-solve on the basis of them. Emotional intelligence is involved in the capacity to perceive emotions, assimilate emotion-related feelings, understand the information of those emotions, and manage them.
Emotion. In this model, emotion refers to a feeling state (including physiological responses and cognitions) that conveys information about relationships. For example, happiness is a feeling state that also conveys information about relationships -- typically, that one would like to join with others. Similarly, fear is a feeling state that corresponds to a relationship -- the urge to flee others.
Intelligence. In this model, intelligence refers to the capacity to reason validly about information.
This use of the term emotional intelligence in this fashion is consistent with scientific literature in the fields of intelligence, personality psychology, and emotions
For example:
Verbal intelligence concerns the mental ability to reason with and about verbal information, and of verbal knowledge to enhance thought.
Spatial intelligence concerns the mental ability to reason with and about spatial information (i.e., the shape of objects and their orientation in space), and of spatial knowledge to enhance thought.
To be continue on part 2.....
Importance of EQ
